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The Enchantress Years

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In our lives we have four phases:

  1. The first stage is that of the Maiden – a time of change, of physical, mental and emotional change into adulthood.
  2. The second stage is the Mother – our adult stage of life, which is usually cyclic and when we stand grounded in the outer world.
  3. The third stage is that of the Enchantress – a time of change, of physical, mental and emotional evolution into completeness.
  4. The fourth stage is that of the Crone – our elder stage of life, where we sit between the worlds.

The Enchantress years can start in our forties as we begin to alter physically and to lose the regularity of our menstrual cycles. We change – our body changes, our emotions change, even the way we think starts to change. And the change doesn’t stop with last menstruation (which is called ‘Menopause’*), it continues after our Menopause, and often it can take up to 10 years before we enter our Crone phase of life where the transformation is complete and our energies are stable. (more…)


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Earth Yoni BlessingThe Yoni (used here as a name for both the vagina and the vulva) is a sacred shrine. It is the beautiful gateway through which energy from the Earth enters our body, the gateway through which life emerges, and through which we connect to the Earth. The Yoni links the outside world with the inner darkness and spiritual centre of our womb, and grounds us in the Earth. It is the physical shrine of the Divine Feminine in her aspect of young girl, adult woman, mature woman and elder woman. (more…)

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Cyclic super woman!Women do not have to do things in the same way as men – we have amazing superpowers within our cyclic nature to do tasks with a uniquely female approach that is equally successful and productive.

In fact, when we look at what women have already achieved working in the same way as men – against their female nature – imagine what we would achieve if we could organise our work to fit our cyclic nature. We would be ‘Optimized Women’ – women who are living and working at their full potential!

So how do we start to use our superpowers? Here are some ideas from my book ‘The Optimized Woman’: (more…)

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Spring MaidenThe energies of the earth change during the year depending, on the tilt of the earth towards or away from the sun. At the winter solstice the earth starts to change her direction, and in the northern hemisphere the days start to lengthen – even if we are not aware of it. Traditionally, the time of the Winter Crone began at Halloween and ended around the 1st February when she turns into the Spring Maiden.

The Maiden emerges tentatively from the darkness of the underworld. She is born into a land of snow and ice, of grey skies, leafless trees and icy water. She is inquisitive in her new world, exploring her senses and delighting in everything the world shows her. Depending on local tradition, the Snow Maiden can ride an elk, a polar bear, an ermine, a white winter hare, a wolf or a magical animal. She embodies the openness of a young girl, the innocent joy of the heart, and the lack of deception. She is the curious intellect, the explorer, the path finder pushing through the snows.


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First Woman and First Dog

When one of the First Dog clan died, all the First Animals were sad. They held a little ceremony to remember their friend, and First Woman shared stories of how First Dog had travelled with her when she collected mushrooms, how they had played in the river, and how he had dug the earth when she was planting vegetables. Everyone was sad.

After a while, First Animals began to worry about First Woman. She did not weave her blankets or look after her garden. She didn’t make her bread, or visit the animals to help.

First Rabbit took First woman a carrot to cheer her up, but First Woman just sighed a quiet “thank you,” and said nothing more. (more…)

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Earth,Moon, WomanEvery month we experience amazing abilities and energies that are created from the weaving together of three energy cycles – our menstrual cycle, the lunar cycle and the Earth’s seasonal cycle. We women are not the product of just one of these cycles – each cycle has its own effect on our lives and on how we express our sense of self.

The womb energy centre is how we perceive the world – there is nothing in our lives that is not affected by womb, its energies and its cycle. It affects us physically and emotionally, and changes how we think. This means that the womb energy centre, and its cycle of four female archetypal energies (Maiden, Mother, Enchantress and Crone), is our first step in understanding the Divine Feminine within ourselves and within the Universe. All my books focus on the menstrual cycle first, because this everyday expression of the womb centre is how we perceive everything else. (more…)

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In my workshops I often use a term that in some languages can be a little difficult to translate.  I call my students ‘ladies’, and this word has a beautiful background in authentic femininity.

In the past, the term ‘lady’ was used as an aristocratic title for a woman who had wealth, came from a good family, and was polite and educated. However, the term ‘lady’ has also been used to suggest a woman who does not respond from her basic instincts – who is gentle, but empowered in her activities, and who is strong but elegant. We also have a term for women, not used in recent times, which is ‘gentlewoman’ – which means a similarly self-aware woman. (We still have the word ‘gentleman’, which is used to describe an empowered man who is polite, gentle and helpful.)

A ‘lady’ is a woman who is self-aware, who notices her ego and her fear patterns but who does not let them rule her interaction with the world. Her politeness comes from her empathy for others, which flows from her self-confidence and understanding of who she is. Her politeness doesn’t mean that she is vulnerable – instead it means that she is strong, in charge of her anger and negative emotions and able to express them in safe ways that do not impact adversely on others. She is not a woman who gives away her power, or who uses her power to dominate; instead she radiates her power in her life.

A lady is also body aware, moving with elegance and grace. She does not need to be ‘beautiful’ as defined by her culture, instead her beauty shines out from her body-acceptance and body-awareness as she moves and interacts with life.

When we look at modern culture we see very few role models of being lady-like, and yet in the past the concept of being a ‘lady’ was one that was associated with empowered femininity and with the Divine Feminine. Goddesses were often given the title of ‘the Lady’, so to be a Lady of the Moon is to walk an ancient path of expressing our inner goddesses and our cyclic pattern of authentic femininity into the world with self-awareness, self-control, empowerment, understanding and empathy. The world needs more ‘ladies’!

A lady-like mindfulness exercise:

Just for a day, whatever your phase, be aware of your body and how you move.

Be ‘lady-like’ by moving with considered grace. Sit or stand making a gentle, elegant or pleasing shape with your body. Remember that a woman can be elegant and graceful regardless of what she is wearing!

Being body-aware naturally links us with our female empowerment and our inherent elegance, and it moves our thoughts into the moment, offering peace and calm in a hectic world.in a hectic world.

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